Comments on: How do I keep my son occupied? http://www.mavenglobe.com/blog/judging/how-do-i-keep-my-son-occupied/ Mon, 14 Jun 2010 07:52:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Rafael Rubenzer http://www.mavenglobe.com/blog/judging/how-do-i-keep-my-son-occupied/#comment-8360 Rafael Rubenzer Mon, 14 Jun 2010 07:52:31 +0000 http://www.mavenglobe.com/blog/judging/how-do-i-keep-my-son-occupied/#comment-8360 Another Excellent post, I will save this post in my Mixx account. Have a great day. Another Excellent post, I will save this post in my Mixx account. Have a great day.

]]> By: Gretchen Rowe http://www.mavenglobe.com/blog/judging/how-do-i-keep-my-son-occupied/#comment-8209 Gretchen Rowe Thu, 20 May 2010 18:28:53 +0000 http://www.mavenglobe.com/blog/judging/how-do-i-keep-my-son-occupied/#comment-8209 My daughter went through the same thing. Involving the probation officer in the process of finding a school is extremely beneficial. If you son is seeing a therapist for behaviorial issues the intake at school should include an IEP for emotional impairment. In the county we live in there is a school specifically designated for emotionally impaired children. I found that while the school could turn me away, they had a difficult time saying no to the probation officer. My daughter went through the same thing. Involving the probation officer in the process of finding a school is extremely beneficial. If you son is seeing a therapist for behaviorial issues the intake at school should include an IEP for emotional impairment. In the county we live in there is a school specifically designated for emotionally impaired children. I found that while the school could turn me away, they had a difficult time saying no to the probation officer.

]]> By: Marva Sampieri http://www.mavenglobe.com/blog/judging/how-do-i-keep-my-son-occupied/#comment-8012 Marva Sampieri Wed, 21 Apr 2010 12:26:09 +0000 http://www.mavenglobe.com/blog/judging/how-do-i-keep-my-son-occupied/#comment-8012 Extremely interesting post thank you for sharing I just added your site to my bookmarks and will be back. Extremely interesting post thank you for sharing I just added your site to my bookmarks and will be back.

]]> By: Kristina http://www.mavenglobe.com/blog/judging/how-do-i-keep-my-son-occupied/#comment-6904 Kristina Fri, 24 Jul 2009 18:18:33 +0000 http://www.mavenglobe.com/blog/judging/how-do-i-keep-my-son-occupied/#comment-6904 Being a juvenile detention officer, I see many kids in trouble like this. Unfortunately, the trouble (more times than not) stems from the home environment, parental guidance (or lack thereof), and the like. Take a hard look at his environment. Homeschooling (I did that for 8 years with two children) will be a problem for him, as kids by this age have had to learn self-discipline. Your son does not have control of this as is evidenced by violating probation. Schools (in our area) do not like to take kids in who are on probation — especially those with probation violations. They are referred to substandard warehousing schools. While these schools do the best they can, they have classrooms full of kids who have committed crimes... Doesn't make for a great learning environment - if your child is at all interested in following an educational path. Getting kids into new activities is a plus. Doing that together is a bigger one. This leads to conversation, exploration, etc. Finding an area of interest and letting him pursue that is a great idea. That, of course, takes time to develop. Summer is a great time to start. In my opinion, he needs to get away from the 'peers' he is with now. Finding a new outlet, he would meet new people, and perhaps develop the inner strength needed to stay on task. So, if he likes cars, ask a local mechanic if your son could volunteer there during the week. You get the idea. In my experience, when the kids have something they are proud of (either an effort they've made, a project they completed, etc.) they start to come around. Dialog opens up, they walk a little taller... Public service is another way to go - and one I highly recommend. Crime rates drop when kids are invested in their community. Kids need to know the society in which they live to gain respect for it; feel part of it. They need to volunteer to clean trails, work with the elderly, re-paint graffitied walls, work at an animal rescue center, and the like. You can do this with him. Kids have to have a stake in their community. They will meet others who do the same, and will develop ties with them - taking him in yet another direction. This means work for you (time, driving, etc), but the payoff is fabulous. Best of luck. This is a rough patch for you and your son, but not insurmountable. Being a juvenile detention officer, I see many kids in trouble like this. Unfortunately, the trouble (more times than not) stems from the home environment, parental guidance (or lack thereof), and the like. Take a hard look at his environment. Homeschooling (I did that for 8 years with two children) will be a problem for him, as kids by this age have had to learn self-discipline. Your son does not have control of this as is evidenced by violating probation. Schools (in our area) do not like to take kids in who are on probation — especially those with probation violations. They are referred to substandard warehousing schools. While these schools do the best they can, they have classrooms full of kids who have committed crimes… Doesn’t make for a great learning environment – if your child is at all interested in following an educational path.

Getting kids into new activities is a plus. Doing that together is a bigger one. This leads to conversation, exploration, etc. Finding an area of interest and letting him pursue that is a great idea. That, of course, takes time to develop. Summer is a great time to start. In my opinion, he needs to get away from the ‘peers’ he is with now. Finding a new outlet, he would meet new people, and perhaps develop the inner strength needed to stay on task. So, if he likes cars, ask a local mechanic if your son could volunteer there during the week. You get the idea. In my experience, when the kids have something they are proud of (either an effort they’ve made, a project they completed, etc.) they start to come around. Dialog opens up, they walk a little taller…

Public service is another way to go – and one I highly recommend. Crime rates drop when kids are invested in their community. Kids need to know the society in which they live to gain respect for it; feel part of it. They need to volunteer to clean trails, work with the elderly, re-paint graffitied walls, work at an animal rescue center, and the like. You can do this with him. Kids have to have a stake in their community. They will meet others who do the same, and will develop ties with them – taking him in yet another direction. This means work for you (time, driving, etc), but the payoff is fabulous.

Best of luck. This is a rough patch for you and your son, but not insurmountable.

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