Comments on: How do I punish my son? http://www.mavenglobe.com/blog/judging/how-do-i-punish-my-son/ Mon, 14 Jun 2010 07:52:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Joey Mallard http://www.mavenglobe.com/blog/judging/how-do-i-punish-my-son/#comment-6660 Joey Mallard Thu, 07 May 2009 19:16:18 +0000 http://www.mavenglobe.com/blog/judging/test/#comment-6660 I have one child and I look for nothing more in my life than to see him miserable. When I come home from work I look for things that are wrong with him just so that I can ground him from things he likes to do. Just yesterday, I punished him harshly because he got a 99% on a very important test, lowering his grade point average by one whole point. I told him that I was disappointed in him and that I would never look at him again. I was never a lienient parent while punishing my child, and it seems to have paid off. Now he is only 32 and still living at home... and enjoying it. Obviously I did a great job parenting and do not regret the harsh punishments I gave him, as they caused me great pain. But I enjoyed it, at the same time. Some people call me crazy for treating him that way, but remember. If your child isn't completely subservient, then he is going to grow up to be a convicted criminal. It's proven by several prominent, and very expensive, children psycologists. I have one child and I look for nothing more in my life than to see him miserable. When I come home from work I look for things that are wrong with him just so that I can ground him from things he likes to do. Just yesterday, I punished him harshly because he got a 99% on a very important test, lowering his grade point average by one whole point. I told him that I was disappointed in him and that I would never look at him again.

I was never a lienient parent while punishing my child, and it seems to have paid off. Now he is only 32 and still living at home… and enjoying it. Obviously I did a great job parenting and do not regret the harsh punishments I gave him, as they caused me great pain. But I enjoyed it, at the same time. Some people call me crazy for treating him that way, but remember. If your child isn’t completely subservient, then he is going to grow up to be a convicted criminal. It’s proven by several prominent, and very expensive, children psycologists.

]]> By: Casey http://www.mavenglobe.com/blog/judging/how-do-i-punish-my-son/#comment-147 Casey Thu, 15 Mar 2007 23:50:58 +0000 http://www.mavenglobe.com/blog/judging/test/#comment-147 I myself have a teenage Daughter. She is 14, and acts MUCH older than her age. She is younger than most of the kids' in her Freshman Class. I used to be a very "easy-going" parent, and realized i messed up. My child and some of her friends were drinking last year over spring break, and I caught her. I grounded her for a month, and took away her computer priviledges. It seemed about a month after grounding her she was the same daughter I had before the accident. Then, suddenly it felt like she was rebelling against me. She was getting ungrounded and grounded every other week. Obivously it wasn't working. Last semester she got low grades, (which is abnormal for her) I didn't ground her, but warned her that if she missed a single assignment I would ground her for the whole next quarter of school. Well, this quarter (as it is just getting over) my daughter has missed one assignment out of all six classes. I'm debating on grounding her or not, a whole quarter seems strict for ONE assignment, but as a parent I feel I must stick to me word. But, enough about my current situations. As a mother of two Teenagers (one boy one girl) I have found that one month punishments don't do much. Of coarse your teen is going to say, "That's no fair...", "It's no big deal.." They don't WANT to be punished, but as a parent that's not your concern. Your concern is that they learn their lesson and don't do it again. It seems your teen is making friends with the "wrong" group. As you can't control your son's friends, you can control the decisions he makes. I would set this as a warning. Let him know that he can stay friends with this kid, but he cannot get rides with him, and one more "mess-ups" involving the friend, he WILL be severely punished, including no more new friend. This technique has worked for me on MOST situations, it seems when a friend steps into punishment, they take it MUCH more seriously. I hope this information has helped you. - Casey I myself have a teenage Daughter. She is 14, and acts MUCH older than her age. She is younger than most of the kids’ in her Freshman Class. I used to be a very “easy-going” parent, and realized i messed up. My child and some of her friends were drinking last year over spring break, and I caught her. I grounded her for a month, and took away her computer priviledges. It seemed about a month after grounding her she was the same daughter I had before the accident. Then, suddenly it felt like she was rebelling against me. She was getting ungrounded and grounded every other week. Obivously it wasn’t working. Last semester she got low grades, (which is abnormal for her) I didn’t ground her, but warned her that if she missed a single assignment I would ground her for the whole next quarter of school. Well, this quarter (as it is just getting over) my daughter has missed one assignment out of all six classes. I’m debating on grounding her or not, a whole quarter seems strict for ONE assignment, but as a parent I feel I must stick to me word.

But, enough about my current situations. As a mother of two Teenagers (one boy one girl) I have found that one month punishments don’t do much. Of coarse your teen is going to say, “That’s no fair…”, “It’s no big deal..” They don’t WANT to be punished, but as a parent that’s not your concern. Your concern is that they learn their lesson and don’t do it again. It seems your teen is making friends with the “wrong” group. As you can’t control your son’s friends, you can control the decisions he makes. I would set this as a warning. Let him know that he can stay friends with this kid, but he cannot get rides with him, and one more “mess-ups” involving the friend, he WILL be severely punished, including no more new friend. This technique has worked for me on MOST situations, it seems when a friend steps into punishment, they take it MUCH more seriously.

I hope this information has helped you. – Casey

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